FaFNY is the NY Member of the reform Coalition (and an early supporter) of Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting.

www.MediaRADAR for the most up to date information on Domestic Violence.

Time to Tell the Truth about Domestic Violence - Why This Campaign?

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The month is designed to increase public awareness how to make our families and homes safe from partner violence.

Over 200 scholarly investigations point to the simple fact that women are as likely, or even more likely, to engage in domestic violence: http://www.mediaradar.org/media_fact_sheet.php

But for too long, special interest groups have misrepresented the truth, claiming that partner aggression is "overwhelmingly" perpetrated by men or citing statistics that have no basis in fact, such as "95% of all DV is committed by males." The myths continue to this day, as revealed by House Resolution 590, recently introduced in the U.S. House of Representatives by Rep. Ted Poe of Texas.¹

Leading family violence researcher Richard Gelles has revealed that "policy and practice seemed to be more influenced by ideologies and political values than actual research and evidence."² So it comes as no surprise that domestic violence programs have been found to be flatly ineffective in reducing partner abuse, and even harmful.³

The theme of the 2007 Domestic Violence Awareness Month is "It's Time to Tell the Truth about Domestic Violence." RADAR and the 75 organizations of the VAWA Reform Coalition have come together to assure that the DV field follows sound research and proven treatment approaches.

Once the truth of partner abuse becomes known, we will be well on our way to solving the problem of domestic violence.

NEED HELP! go to the following two web sites for non biased assistance regardless of gender or sexual orientation:

Nationally-Stop Abuse For Everyone SAFE or Capital District Stop the Violence Inc.

Figure 1.-Violence Against Men, Methods of Control, by Mr. James Hays June 2004.  Figure 1 with discussion in adobe.pdf click here.

POWER and CONTROL

Sexual Violence

Emotional Violence

Institutional Violence

Violence: Hits, Strikes, Shoves; Puts Down; Claims Inadequate; Hen-Pecking; Ruins Good Name or Reputation, Threaten Suicide or To Destroy Family; Cries Wolf (Calls 911).

Economic: Control Checking or Savings; Demands More Income; Causes Excessive Debt; Doesn’t Work; Demands More Work Of You; Takes Assets Not “Entitled” To.

Reproduction: False Paternity; Lies about Reproductive Status; Forced Abortion; Unplanned Pregnancy Carried to Birth; Force You To Care For Unwanted Child.

Sexual Relations: Demanding Sex; Demands Deviant Sex; Denying Sexual Relations; False Rape or Sexual Abuse Allegations; Infidelity or Threatens It.

Children: Gate keeper; Takes Custody; Denies Access; Belittles/Bad Mouths in Front of Child; Alienates; Moves Them Away; Replaces with a “Father Figure” (Boyfriend).

False Allegations: Portrays as “Dangerous”; Claims Fear Of; Claims Spouse Abuse; Claims Child Abuse; Obtains Unnecessary Orders of Protection.

Divorce/Family Court: Divorce Against Your Will; Divorce For No Cause; Excessive Litigation; Custody and Child Support Orders To Control Your Behavior or As Punishment; Creates “Baby Momma Drama”; Uses Court Gender Biases.

Violence Against Men - Methods of Control

Female Privilege: Acts the “Princess”; Demands Money and Gifts; Feigns Helplessness; Controls Friends and Activities; Self Centered-Demands Attention; Uses Male Chivalry to Gain Advantage; Makes You Pay.

Physical Violence